How to get the hot girls 1 Preparations

How to get the hot girls: Part 1, Introduction and how to prepare yourself.

Ok, here's the deal. I'm a nerd, a 21 year old nerd. And throughout the first 17 years of my life, I've pretty much did what nerds are expected to do. I stayed home, read books/comics/manga and watched cartoons or played videogames, even writing some things on my free time.

Now, like most people out there, at one point, I started to feel what you'd expect a young boy in puberty would feel. Horniness. It could be put in different ways, but I'm being blunt here. I started to pay attention to the opposite sex, to the girls, the tall ones, the short ones, the pretty and the ugly. A genetic imprinted need to procreate had awakened with the surge in hormones, and like most nerds out there, I pretty much had no more options than my right hand... don't deny it, I know you've done it too.

It would be a couple of years more, around the age of 16, before I actually tried to go out with a girl. As a matter of fact, she was THE girl in my highschool, the hottest one around, the princess in heels that would have been in a cheerleading outfit if my school had one to begin with.

Needles to say, I was as successful in catching her attention as a tiny pebble on the side of the road. I dare say I was lucky she even took the time to laugh at my proposal to go watch a movie.

I was crushed, took me a little over a month to wear down the laughs, and by then I had noticed this same pretty girl I had had a crush on had been asked out for the same movie by some other guy... and he had succeeded.

My initial reaction was jealousy and anger, how could it be that a douchebag of a guy that pretty much treated her like trash could get the date and I couldn't? Anger turned to curiosity after a little while, and I willed myself to distance from the situation and study what had happened.

What had been his trick to achieve the success my attempt had lacked?

Around the time I had also started to practice writing and creating characters as well, so the psychology of the matter was also a very good motivation for me to try and research this.

I went for the books first: dating books, self-help books, psychology books, romance novels... anything that could even graze the subject of the female mind and how to get them to date you. They were all vague and focused mostly on "Be yourself" and "Be confident"... and being the nerd I was, such diffuse terminology left me with more questions than answers.

But I'm not here to tell the story of my life, I'm here to try and level the playing-field of the dating world, I want to give the nerds and "Nice guys" as much help as possible. Explain the rule system of the typical female mind and how to get an actual date with them rather than get dumped into the friendzone.

This will be a series of posts, which I've titled "How to prepare yourself", "Hot girls, what's in their heads", "How to approach her", "How to escape the Friendzone", "How to tell if she's interested in you", "How to keep her" and "How to improve the sex-life".

Unfortunately, I cannot specify the rules and instructions for every situation, scenario and reaction since I'd need books and books to even write it down. Instead, I'll give pointers and tips, as well as some explanations to make it easier to understand.

Let's start with the exercises you are to practice from now on so that you can have an actual chance of getting a girl to date you.

Consider it like playing a videogame, you first get the tutorial and lower level tasks before you fight the boss. Meaning that if any of you find yourselves out of words/breath/thoughts when approaching a girl, or lack the confidence to even do it, then you will have to do these things and practice a lot before your chance become palpable.

The psychologist Albert Ellis (who died five years ago) had a problem and it was that he couldn't speak to girls. In an attempt to cure his condition, he forced himself to straight out ask for a date a hundred women throughout the duration of a whole month.

Not one of them gave him even a chance, they shot him down in an instant. He was rejected by 99 different women, and the one who had agreed didn't even show up for the date.

So what was the whole exercise for?

He learnt that, even after being rejected, it wasn't the end of the world, life went on and that he shouldn't worry about such things.

Now I'm not going to force you to ask a bunch of women one after the other just so you learn this yourself, though I do warn you that just like doing math or art, you'll make mistakes before you get it down right.

Your training will be focused on your talking skills, body language control/interpretation and boosting of confidence. The three essentials to making a girl want to go out with you in the first place.

Here's the list of things you're to do:

-First will be talking. If you have a girl in mind you like or have a crush for, take her out of this list for the time being. Your tactic should be to head to anywhere with bunch of people walking around and pick a hot girl at random, and I mean a very hot girl, the one that most nervous would make you.

Without giving yourself even five seconds to think and pull back, approach her and ask her for the time, simple, right? Remember to make sure you're not wearing a watch, and if they ask about your phone, say it ran out of juice.

You should start of with about ten to fifteen times a day, that's right, at different times of a day, approach ten different girls in ten different time periods and ask for the time. Nothing more, nothing less. Also try to avoid going for a girl you've already asked.

Something very important for you to consider is that these people are total strangers whom you don't care about. So, anything they could say is not worth your time fretting over. Just go, ask for the time and that's that.

This is meant to be a warmup, it'll accustom you to approach total strangers whom you find attractive. You might think you're smooth, cool, manly and ready to get whatever girl you want, but the thing is, you're reading this post with interest, so odds are you're deluding yourself.

Note that as you go on, the number of girls you should approach daily should increase, and remember to have the common sense to not just go straight from one girl you asked for time to the next, who even saw you, that's just plain stupid. And going for someone on the bus you usually take would make things awkward latter on if they saw you constantly asking for time... head for someplace you don't usually go with lots of people but not that much noise.

You can even add that you're supposed to meet some friends or some other excuse, and that you had forgotten to charge your phone... anything so long as she tells you the time. After that, thank her and just walk away.

I'd advise not to engage too much in conversation if it even starts, but if you feel comfortable enough, do it. But remember that you're not trying to date these girls, just talk. You'll probably never meet them again.


-Second, correct your posture and control your body. If you're in control of your body and aware of your posture, then you could very well exude confidence when you're feeling like crap or are extremely nervous. This is essential because having the proper body language will increase your odds of getting a date a hundred fold, humans are more beings of emotion than reason... for better or worse.

For the beginning, every day, when you get up, look in the mirror and begin by straightening your back and standing as "proudly" as you can try to be. Throughout the day, remind yourself to straighten your posture.

Once you get the hang of this, you should begin exercises where, throughout the day, you focus on the gestures you make when talking, walking or doing whatever it is you do. From how far you tilt forward, the direction your eyes look, how tense your muscles are, the speed of your breathing... every detail about what you do when you get nervous or start getting nervous should be written down so you become aware of the signs and get the chance to gain control of yourself before you start blabbering like a fool.

Very important for you out there that get really nervous, whenever you feel yourself tense up, your hands shaking, your breathing quicken or any other sign that you're entering the "nervous zone", do a gesture particular to yourself before forcing yourself to start breathing slowly and imagine calm and relaxing thoughts.

The gesture can be rubbing your hands, slightly pinching some specific area of your skin, humming a tune... whatever rocks your boat, the objective of this is that, over time, you relate that gesture to getting calm. It wont be of use at first, but with enough practice, eventually you could very well calm yourself down by just doing the gesture. It'd be ideal if only you could notice this gesture, since others could miss read it as something else.

The one I use is curling my toes inside my shoes, it's invisible to others and makes me aware that I'm nervous and I'm starting to relax again.

A very interesting way to further improve your way of recognizing body language and using it is by observing people as they talk or walk, note the position of their hands, the expression on their faces, how their hands move, to where their bodies lean... an easy way to practice this would be for you to go up to someone and imitate their every move and word and see for how long you can keep it, but it's not advised for anyone who's lacking confidence.

Another way to get to become aware with your body is to practice dancing or martial arts, either of the two forces you to have a certain degree of awareness and self control over your body. And it could aid in making you feel more confident as well.

I'd advice you watch the series "Lie to me" and read the manha "Dr Frost", both of which explain basic psychology and body language. Though don't take them by heart.


-Third to follow is to practice small talk. This one in particular can and should be practiced in all sorts of scenarios. Write this list on a piece of paper when you're going to practice small talk:

*A guy
*A girl
*A group of mostly guys
*A group of mostly girls

Now, throughout the day or duration of this practice, for every time you speak with a guy or group of guys, you should try with two to three times the amount of girls to compensate.

The duration of these talks should always vary, starting with short brief conversations and long ones, but try avoiding anything that lasts more than 10 minutes at first. Again, this is an exercise so you  get used to being in groups of unknown people and feel confident.

Clearly, this one should not be attempted until one or two weeks after you've mastered the "ask for time" part. And the small talk should be reduced to that, go there, ask for time, and comment about the weather, some sports event, the news... anything not personal that could get some opinion and feedback. After a couple minutes thank them for the time and politely walk off.

A way I found out how to better small-talk with groups was to pay attention to other people and about what they're talking about, to then interrupt and put in a piece of my opinion. Most times it got me enough to spend 10 to 20 minutes of talking, but every now and then I was pretty much shunned or ignored.


-Feel confidence. This one practice it from day one.

Remind yourself that whoever you're talking to are total strangers and that you should not care for their opinion not even once. Insults, humiliation, laughing at you, anything. If it makes you uncomfortable, they're just jerks and bitches, and there's nothing stopping you from walking away.

Be sure of what your limits are, how long you can talk without getting a dry throat, how hard you can punch, how high you can jump. Being aware will make you realize of what's possible and what's not. It takes time, but the reward will be that you're going to be more certain of what you can or can't do, and hence, more confident.

Telling yourself in the mirror you're confident could very well help, however, you need to make sure you mean it. Straighten your spine, shoulders back, chest out and stomach in, and look at the eye of your reflection when you say it.

Humiliate yourself. Yep, that's right, make a fool out of yourself, suddenly shout out "It's 5 am and I don't give a shit!" or go straight for a girl and tell her "You're cute" and walk away, wearing an oversized hat in the bus, doing the "Wiggle, wiggle, wiggle, wiggle" whenever you hear the song... the sort of stupid nonsense that'll make you blush and others laugh.

Anything that will make you feel embarrassed will lead you to discover that it's not going to be the end of the world if you do something like this. It'll also get you more used to being the center of attention, however short this time will be, and if done enough times you could actually develop a new funny side of you that's certain to get you laughs in nearly any situation.

If you even manage to pull it off with a straight face, the reaction from those around you will be even greater since it shows you don't really care and you're doing it just for the sake of fun.

In the event that you're too shy to do this sort of thing, even after weeks of practicing small talk with total strangers. Then do something in a costume, like wearing a mask and trying to do normal things without speaking a word in a really public area, or going to somewhere you're sure none of your friends will be to do the acting... anything as long as it gets you used to the idea that being shamed in public can become a great opportunity for you to boost your confidence and even meet girls if the situation were to ever appear.


-Lastly, do exercise.

I don't mean to get to the point where you can bench-press a hundred tons, or run a marathon with little more than a glass of water. I mean that at least three to four times a week do some sort of physical activity from anywhere in between one to three hours that will get you sweating within the first 20-30 minutes and with muscle aches by the next morning if you don't warm up right or don't stretch latter.

It can be from jogging to punching bags or climbing stairs. Being physically active will make you healthier, and most importantly, will make you more confident and improve your opportunity to be better in bed (when that time comes).

Don't take muscle supplements or pills in a vain belief that looking muscular and handsome will give you 100% chance of getting the girls. That's a lie, I can tell you I've seen how some fat and ugly dude went into a bar, straight for the prettiest girl around, and in less than ten minutes had her number. And judging by his clothes he wasn't exactly rich either.

The main difference between you and the fat ugly old guy is that he had confidence and a natural magnetic personality that made the woman want him from the moment he started talking. Though women do like eye-candy as much as guys, they will completely ignore appearances if the guy has the right personality.

And since I'm not too keen on advising you go and get plastic surgery to turn you from the geekiest geek into a handsome geek that's still unable to utter a word in front of a girl, I advise you focus on your personality instead since it'll get you farther with a girl than looks ever will.

It is very important that you practice these on an almost daily basis if possible, you must build up your character and mannerisms before you decide on "going hunting" for possible dates.

Don't get me wrong, you can try getting a girl at any time you like, but by letting your confidence grow you will increase your odds much more.

In the next part, I explain how to approach a girl and which is the best first impression to give off.